Monday, December 21, 2015
Starfucking (female, 20)
The Spring Fling concert is a major campus event at my small liberal arts college. So when the famous rapper we’d all been looking forward to seeing for weeks singled me out and pulled me up on stage mid-performance, it was a big deal. Dancing alongside a verified celeb in front of the entire school, I inevitably got a little drunk on my five minutes of spotlight. I decided right then and there that I was DTF (down to fuck).
But what transpired between us wasn’t the wild, disconnected sex I anticipated. To start, the dapper rapper nibbled on my toes. He followed that intimate gesture by caressing my body tenderly all over. Then he told me he could love me, and offered to pay for my college education! The next morning, he invited all my friends out to brunch.
As soon as he left town, the reality that he was twice my age, lived in Atlanta, and traveled constantly set in. When he texted a few days later, I was shocked he hadn’t forgotten me already. My ego begged me to respond. But rather than draw the whole thing out and make myself vulnerable to disappointment, I chose not to taint a precious one-night stand.shources
Read the second installment of titillating tales here, the third here, and the fourth here.
Whether I’m writing aboutjoining the mile high club,attending a “kissing party”, or the joy that comes with not caring about pubic hair, I often address my sex life directly. Sometimes, I even dispense unsolicited advice based on personal experiences on matters such as staying faithful, and which awkward scenarios couples should expect to face in the sack.
For this roundup of sensual stories, however, I cast a wide net. What I discovered is that everyone seems to have a saucy tale worth sharing. Below are the top 5 anecdotes of the lot, which are sure to leave you flesh thirsty. (Each story has been edited for clarity.)sources
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I have had a lot of sex. Most of it great, some of it not so great and then one terrible, horrible, cringe-worthy experience. So while I could sit here and write about one of the former times, it’s the latter that I choose to tell you about today. And please note, dear reader, that I’ve only shared this story with one other person – my bestie. You’ll soon see why. My first mistake in this experience was flirting with a guy I worked with. You know how they say you shouldn’t dip your pen in the company ink? Well there’s a very good reason for that – if it goes wrong, you still have to face each other daily! My second mistake involves automobiles. Now I don’t know much about cars (if you ask me what type of car I drive, I’d say a maroon one), but I do know that a guy who drives a car that looks like a cockroach, should be avoided at all costs. Well I know that now. I mean really, what sort of dork would willingly, nay proudly, drive a car that resembles a creature most people will happily squash with a thong (the footwear type, not the lingerie type)? Looking back, on some level I must have known the evening would turned pear-shaped as I took a bottle of Jim Beam with me when I went to his place for dinner. That was probably the best part of the evening actually – the dinner. Lasagne. Not home-made lasagne, but the type you buy in the frozen section at Coles or Woolies. That’s right, dear reader, store-bought-frozen-lasagne was the best bit of the night!! After dinner and a glass of JB & coke we settled in to watch ‘The Commitments’ (remember? It was voted Best Irish Film of All Time in 2005??). Anyway, towards the end of the movie he decided to start making a move on me. Now I’d love to tell you that after extended foreplay, we moved to the bedroom where we made sweet, sweet love – but alas that didn’t happen. If you'd like to read what happens next please sources
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I called my boyfriend over, on a Saturday night to come to my complex unit that I share with my roommate since she was gone for the night. Told him I needed to be in his muscly arms. 20 minutes later, there we are, on the sofa fully-clothed in a sweet embrace. Whilst our lips are locked, enjoying the taste of the others mouth, we both start feeling each other through the material of our clothes. He unhooks my bra with my shirt still on letting it fall revealing my double D breasts. My nipples are hard clearly showing through my shirt. I reach for his crotch where I grab his junk with my hand letting him give a little moan into my mouth. With each time I rub his dick growing hard through his shorts, he takes my nipples and pinches them making me horny for more. As we pulled away from each other, he rushed to take my shirt off revealing my large breasts immediately taking my right boob into his mouth lapping his tongue all over my nipple while using his other hand to unbutton my pants. I got up, letting them fall to the ground as he goes to take my panties off. I stop him. Instead taking his shirt off to reveal his large chest, going down to take off his pants to reveal his bulge, we stop in the heat of moment. Only to notice my roommate Chavel standing intrigued by us with her hand down her pants. I've always wanted to have a threesome. Without consulting my boyfriend, I ask if she wants to join us, my boyfriend doesn't hesitate. I went and took her by the hand taking her hand out of her pants and placed them in my mouth. The warmth of her melted in my mouth, and I took her by the hand and led her to my boyfriend. There, she took her shirt off, and before she could unhook her bra. I stepped in making love to her neck whilst unhooking her bra revealing small petite pink nipples. I take her pants and panties off and feel her vagina, wet with her pussy juices. We focus our attention back to my boyfriend who has removed his pants and jocks revealing his large, hard cock .sources.sources
Watch Selena Gomez's Sexy AF "
After a lot of teasers and questions about certain Instagram hotties, Selena Gomez's brand new video for "Hands to Myself" is finally here and boy, is it going to give you so many ~feelings.~
Directed by Alek Keshishian, the video features Selena breaking into the home of a guy she's obsessed with (an actor/model perhaps?). She's wearing heels and lingerie, trying on his clothes, and seductively writhing around on his bed in her underwear, as one does. But then when the guy (played by handsome Instagrammystery dude Christopher Mason) shows up, he calls the cops and they slap the cuffs on Selena. HOWEVER! There's a twist (a very cute twist I will leave for you to to discover on your own).
Selena, who tweeted the video on Monday, also had a message for her co-star:sources
This Is What It's Really Like to Get Paid to Help Women Enjoy Sex
Larry Villarin, 62, is one of 10 men in the U.S. who are certified sexual surrogates, aka men who get paid to help women feel better about having sex, Broadly reports.
Villarin says most of his clients (who are mostly women, but some men hire him also) have sexual issues stemming from very religious upbringings, abuse, or an early childhood incident that left them struggling in their present-day relationships.
He and the client work together via a variety of exercises, such as having both of them get naked and stare at themselves in the mirror while talking about what they see, and other things designed to help them regain their trust in men and sex. Villarin says women do sometimes develop feelings for him during the process, but he figures, "It's better that they learn how to be hurt with me, rather than a less sensitive man."sources
1."I spent a Saturday night in watching a rom-com. The fire alarm went off and I had to stand outside my dorm in my pajamas, sobbing and alone, while everyone else was dressed up and going out. Great."—Shivani I., 20, Student, Edison, NJ
2. "It was winter. I usually put on pantyhose, leggings, and jeans. But that day, I put on leggings, and my pantyhose from the day before were stuck in the leggings. I get on the train, and the pantyhose are dragging behind me. It was rush hour, and I had to pull out the pantyhose on the train, put them in my bag, and act like nobody saw. The pantyhose were nude! If they had been black, maybe people would've been like 'Oh, that's just her pants.' But they didn't blend in. I was so embarrassed."—Dascha Polanco, Orange is The New Black
3. "While my boyfriend and I were having sex, his dog came into the room without us knowing. Then while I was on top, the dog licked my butt. Total mood killer." —Paige H., 22
4. "I was the maid of honor at my best friend's wedding, and just as the priest was about to lead the vows, I was hit with a sudden intense urge to pee. I couldn't hold it, so I had to walk out right then to find a bathroom. Casual." —Sabrina S., 28
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5. "Whenever my husband and I get into an argument, I give him the finger behind his back for the whole rest of the night." —April K., 31. "During foreplay, I called my ex Shawn. Shawn is my brother." —Natalie H., 21
"I went to this club completely shwasted. When the bouncer asked for my ID, I took her hand, kissed her cheek, and said, 'You look beautiful today.' I didn't get in." —Kelly G., 21, Student, Edison, NJ
8. "A girl stayed over and I forgot my grandparents were coming. When they arrived, I asked the girl to bail out the window."—Paul C., 32, Drummer, Los Angeles, CA
9. "I still puke before every show my band plays." —Misha L., 24, Guitarist/Vocalist, Los Angeles, CA
10. "I crashed my car because I was getting road head and was totally distracted."—Dakota P., 24, Bassist, Los Angeles, CA11. "I was drunkenly hooking up with a crush for the first time and suddenly noticed a strangely rough sensation. I looked down and saw that for the last five minutes, I had been making sweet love to the space between her and the mattress. The worst part was that she hadn't said anything." —Will B., 23
12. "On the way home from a crazy night of drinking, I got such an urge to throw up. The cab driver could tell that my friends and I were wasted and had already told us that there would be a $100 fine if we got sick in his car. I couldn't afford that and I didn't have a plastic bag, so I threw up into my purse. Not only was it disgusting, but it ruined my phone." —Dominique M., 27
13. "I pee when I laugh sometimes." —Max Z., 25
14. "My BF and I went to the movies, and on our way in, we were joking around and he said he wanted to impress me. He tried to carry me up the few steps into the theater, and midstride, he tripped and we both fell. Literally all the other movie-goers started laughing."—Samantha A., 21
15. "I was making a ton of important business calls, inviting people to a conference in Tucson. Finally, one of my coworkers came up to my cubicle and said, 'I can't listen to this anymore. It's pronounced too-sahn, not tuck-son.' I was mortified." —Holly R., 35
16. "I went to Juilliard and during our big-deal spring dance recital, I slipped in the middle of the performance and fell on my butt. The entire audience saw." —Melissa F., 26, Ballet Dancer, Miami, FL.sourcessources
Pornhub Awards $25,000 College Scholarship to Middle-Aged Mom
Pornhub awarded their $25,000 college scholarship to a middle-aged mom, Washington Postreports.
In her video application, mother of two MaryAnn Uribe, 48, answered Pornhub's application question of "How do you strive to make others happy?" by reading messages she'd gotten from friends who'd been helped by her.
Her friends told her she'd helped them by "telling me how beautiful I am every day," "by sending me money for the kids' school clothes or shoes," and "knowing my past, not giving a damn or judging me, and still reminding me I can do great things."The scholarship is also good for online classes, which is especially helpful for Uribe since she suffers from agoraphobia. Uribe says she's been unable to leave the house ever since her former employer tried to have her killed after she reported him for illegal activity in 2011, making continuing her education difficult.
Pornhub VP Corey Price told the Washington Post that Uribe's essay stood out because "[s]he's been through a lot ... When negative things happened, she really stood up for herself."
Now, if you'll excuse me I'm going to go cry because the world is sometimes good.sources.
Come Again? The Dirty Questions You Should Start Asking In Bed
Your sex is all fine and good, but it's lacking a little dirty talk? Adding some sexy questions to steam up your relationship may just be the trick you need.
"Asking the right questions to your partner is an easy way to not only enhance intimacy in a relationship, but also expand your existing sexual repertoire," says Emily Morse, sex expert and radio host of Sex With Emily. Here, Morse shares some of her favorite questions to help take your bedroom behavior up a notch. And the best part? These questions work both ways, so here's hoping he's a quick learner.sources
Woman Suing Airbnb After Finding Hidden Camera Filming in Her Rental
Edith Schumacher was staying in a San Francisco Airbnb while visiting from Germany when she noticed a little light coming from the living room shelf on her third day. The light turned out to be a remote-controlled hidden camera that could have captured her naked, The Recorder reports.
Schumacher reportedly likes to sleep in the nude and had made the trip from the bedroom to the bathroom without clothes on several times in her first few days. Her lawyers said she was "deeply humiliated and angry" after finding the camera and was scared the rental's residents would post naked pictures of her online or listen to private conversations she and her partner had had in the apartment.
She's filed a lawsuit against Airbnb in San Francisco for negligence and is also suing the residents who listed the property for violation of privacy and intentionally inflicting emotional distress, The Recorder reports.sources.sources
Have you ever had a casual sex relationship? Did it end in
F-buddies, booty calls, and one night stands can actually be beneficial to your future love life? Jocelyn Wentland, a PhD psychology student who helped perform the study, explained to National Post that the lapse between high school and marriage for many young people is more than 10 years. "It's a long time to be a free agent. These relationships offer an in-the-meantime kind of access to sex. That's not a bad thing," Wentland says.
Researchers conducted several focus groups with a total of 23 undergraduates and sex educators, 19 of whom had been involved in a casual sex relationship. Granted, this is a small number of people so we aren't saying these results are truly definitive, but the interesting thing that researchers found was that, for the most part, respondents understood the nuances between the different casual sex "relationships." For example: A one-night stand is someone you barely know, who you sleep with only once. A booty call is the person you call (or, let's be real—text) late at night when you're feeling horny and want to hook up. An f-buddy is someone you have a frequent sexual relationship with—you're not really friends, but there's a possibility you'll become friends. A friend with benefits is someone you hang out with regularly and have sex with whenever you want. True, it's the slight shades of difference here that can cause problems—if one person thinks there's more to the "relationship" than the other, feelings can be hurt. But as long as you're both on the same page, casual sex like this (using protection of course, but we don't have to tell you that) can help you find out what you're into sexually. The better you know yourself and what you like, then when you're ready for an LTR, the more likely you'll be able to find the person who can satisfy you inside the bedroom—and out.sources.sources
You're probably familiar with the phrase, "Don't toot your own horn", but we're much more partial to, "If you've got it, flaunt it". And we've got it—it being a freaking kick-ass website. Cosmopolitan.com just had its best month ever, with more people visiting the site than ever before. And we're on track to have our best year ever too. So, since you're one of the people who helped make that happen, we want you to pop a little bubbly and celebrate with us as we take a look at some of the most cli(and naughtiest) stories of 2012.
The Hottest Thing My Girlfriend Ever Did
For guys, sex is kinda like pizza. Even when it's bad, it's still pretty damn good. That said, every dude has that one uber-memorable encounter that stands out from all the rest. So we got real men to give us a private tour of their spank banks and share the naughty story that plays on a near constant loop inside their dirty, dirty minds.
12 Ways To Keep Things Hot When You're Apart
The holidays are all about catching up with family, eating loads of yummy food, and…being away your guy for a long stretch of time. Luckily, there are easy, low-dough tricks (hel-lo, Gchat!) that'll keep yourbond tight when you can't be together.sources.sources
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How to Create (or Kill) Sexual Tension
One thing that is critical for developing attraction with a woman that will lead to your eventual seduction success is learning how to build and nurture the sexual tension between you.
Remember that when you first begin to interact with a woman, unless she already has a strong initial attraction for you - sometimes known as "chemistry", you are in a neutral zone with her. This is a place where she has yet to make up her mind as to whether you are interesting to her or not.
Now, you can choose to sift through dozens and dozens of women looking for the few that you have that instant "chemistry" with, butI find it much more practical to stimulate the woman's attraction so that she has that chemistry right away, and then I can choose whether or not to act on my own attraction. It's like getting a pre-approved loan and knowing you COULD go out and buy that new Porsche, but it's YOUR choice.
This, guys, is what seduction is all about. Having your own choice as to whether a woman interests YOU or not, not the other way around.
Back to the Neutral Zone (and I'm not talking about that Star Trek term, either...)
In order to get that tension going - a necessary tension - you need to zap her out of her neutral funk and get her into feeling EXCITEMENT. There are many ways to do this:
1. Teasing - You find little areas of insecurity, and you play with them a little. This isn't to belittle her or make her feel bad about herself, but to demonstrate your own confidence and security by showing that you're aware of your own dominance as a man, and that you do not fear her. Teasing also lowers her guard a little so that you can reach that "real" part of her personality that she is cloaking with defensive behavior. (Sometimes called "tease to please")
2. Humor - Humor takes the edge off your teasing (sometimes called cocky/funny). Women are dying to laugh. There are so many guys out there that have ZERO humor to them. They take everything too seriously, including women, which - honestly - creeps them out. Compare: A man with humor enjoys life, is relaxed enough to find the fun in everything, and shows that he has a sense of inner calm. A man without humor is not relaxed, takes things way too seriously, and tends to smother and convey insecurity with his intense behavior. sourse.l
Monday, December 14, 2015
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The case of Elaine Benes and Jerry Seinfeld of “Seinfeld,” is a rare and curious one.
If you’re unfamiliar with the show, which would be equally as curious since it’s broadcasted across a plethora of channels at seemingly all hours of night, the two characters are close friends who also previously dated, albeit briefly.
While the prospect of two people remaining close friends after a breakup may seem commonplace on sitcoms, it’s a concept that’s seldom found outside the walls of television. Part of the reason it’s so difficult to remain platonic friends with a person you once had sexual relationships with is, well, because of that recurring prospect of sex.
Elaine and Jerry understood this on the show.
Despite toying with the idea of having sex from time to time, they deliberately tried to keep their friendship free of any sexual temptation in an effort to protect their relationship. They understood, like many people with close friends of the opposite gender do, that sex would likely only complicate things.
Sex makes people protective. Sex makes people jealous. Sex can make people a little, well, crazy. For these reasons, people find it hard to remain friends with people to whom they feel any sort of romantic connection.
And while I agree for the most part, I don’t think it’s impossible.
In fact, Dr. Theresa E. DiDonato, a social psychologist and professor at the Loyola University Maryland, believes that close friends not only can survive as lovers, but actually might make the best, and most rewarding, lovers.
You know how each other operates.
In a piece titled, “Is This Love, or Friendship,” posted on Psychology Today, DiDonato explores why those who value friendship highly in their relationship also experience the best relationship quality.
I mean, when people are friends first, they’re likely used to looking out for each other’s best interests. They’re used to listening. They’re used to seeing what ticks the other person off. They know how to make the other person laugh.
When people jump into relationships with people they may not know that well, it’s easier for problems to arise. And when these problems do arise, the parties invested won’t know — or have the willpower — to try and resolve them.
For instance, if you start dating a girl, and you find yourself bickering about petty sh*t early on, you might just chalk it up to not being a good fit and begin looking for someone you mesh with better.
However, if you knew this person on a deeper level, in the way that you know someone who you’ve been friends with for a long time, you might understand why you’re bickering – and find a way to fix it.
You will always have true, selfless companionship.
One of the key points DiDonato makes revolves around the idea of companionship. True friendship will always promote companionship.
With relationships, on the hand, this isn’t always the case.
A lot of times, when two people begin dating, they agree to do so for very selfish reasons, whether it’s because they’re looking for someone to spend some time with purely out of convenience or because they just hate being alone.
As sad as this may sound, many people date without the true intention of forming a union with another person, with both of their best interests in mind.
If you date someone you were close friends with beforehand, though, it’s less likely for relationships to be built on bad intentions.
Your best friend can satisfy you better sexually than anyone could.
As for the elephant in the room — the sexual chemistry between two people who were previously just friends — DiDonato says friends are at an advantage when it comes to fulfilling each other’s sexual needs.
According to DiDonato, “Couples who directly prioritize the satisfaction of sexual needs actually end up with less fulfillment of those needs, whereas valuing friendship appeared to promote sexual need fulfillment.”
Friends are less likely to feel awkward asking one another questions in the bedroom and actually care about the satisfaction of the person they’re sleeping with. So, although Elaine might’ve faked a few orgasms with Jerry over the course of their relationship on “Seinfeld,” it seems that friends are actually more likely to have good sex.
You will be OK either way.
If you’ve been tempted by a close friend who you’ve been having romantic feelings for, it’s important to make sure those feelings are mutual. Although friends might make good lovers, it’s not a universal rule — especially not if the person you’re friends with has the same intentions that you do.
That said, if you feel as though you and your friend have been experiencing some sexual tension — and have been refusing to act on that tension, due to the fear of ruining the relationship — it might be something to explore further with that person.
Communication is key for any relationship, platonic or not, to survive. So don’t be afraid to talk things out prior to doing anything drastic.
Use your intuition. If you get the feeling that you and your…friend…are not on the same page, it’s never too late to laugh it off. That’s what friends are for.soe.The case of Elaine Benes and Jerry Seinfeld of “Seinfeld,” is a rare and curious one.
If you’re unfamiliar with the show, which would be equally as curious since it’s broadcasted across a plethora of channels at seemingly all hours of night, the two characters are close friends who also previously dated, albeit briefly.
While the prospect of two people remaining close friends after a breakup may seem commonplace on sitcoms, it’s a concept that’s seldom found outside the walls of television. Part of the reason it’s so difficult to remain platonic friends with a person you once had sexual relationships with is, well, because of that recurring prospect of sex.
Elaine and Jerry understood this on the show.
Despite toying with the idea of having sex from time to time, they deliberately tried to keep their friendship free of any sexual temptation in an effort to protect their relationship. They understood, like many people with close friends of the opposite gender do, that sex would likely only complicate things.
Sex makes people protective. Sex makes people jealous. Sex can make people a little, well, crazy. For these reasons, people find it hard to remain friends with people to whom they feel any sort of romantic connection.
And while I agree for the most part, I don’t think it’s impossible.
In fact, Dr. Theresa E. DiDonato, a social psychologist and professor at the Loyola University Maryland, believes that close friends not only can survive as lovers, but actually might make the best, and most rewarding, lovers.
You know how each other operates.
In a piece titled, “Is This Love, or Friendship,” posted on Psychology Today, DiDonato explores why those who value friendship highly in their relationship also experience the best relationship quality.
I mean, when people are friends first, they’re likely used to looking out for each other’s best interests. They’re used to listening. They’re used to seeing what ticks the other person off. They know how to make the other person laugh.
When people jump into relationships with people they may not know that well, it’s easier for problems to arise. And when these problems do arise, the parties invested won’t know — or have the willpower — to try and resolve them.
For instance, if you start dating a girl, and you find yourself bickering about petty sh*t early on, you might just chalk it up to not being a good fit and begin looking for someone you mesh with better.
However, if you knew this person on a deeper level, in the way that you know someone who you’ve been friends with for a long time, you might understand why you’re bickering – and find a way to fix it.
You will always have true, selfless companionship.
One of the key points DiDonato makes revolves around the idea of companionship. True friendship will always promote companionship.
With relationships, on the hand, this isn’t always the case.
A lot of times, when two people begin dating, they agree to do so for very selfish reasons, whether it’s because they’re looking for someone to spend some time with purely out of convenience or because they just hate being alone.
As sad as this may sound, many people date without the true intention of forming a union with another person, with both of their best interests in mind.
If you date someone you were close friends with beforehand, though, it’s less likely for relationships to be built on bad intentions.
Your best friend can satisfy you better sexually than anyone could.
As for the elephant in the room — the sexual chemistry between two people who were previously just friends — DiDonato says friends are at an advantage when it comes to fulfilling each other’s sexual needs.
According to DiDonato, “Couples who directly prioritize the satisfaction of sexual needs actually end up with less fulfillment of those needs, whereas valuing friendship appeared to promote sexual need fulfillment.”
Friends are less likely to feel awkward asking one another questions in the bedroom and actually care about the satisfaction of the person they’re sleeping with. So, although Elaine might’ve faked a few orgasms with Jerry over the course of their relationship on “Seinfeld,” it seems that friends are actually more likely to have good sex.
You will be OK either way.
If you’ve been tempted by a close friend who you’ve been having romantic feelings for, it’s important to make sure those feelings are mutual. Although friends might make good lovers, it’s not a universal rule — especially not if the person you’re friends with has the same intentions that you do.
That said, if you feel as though you and your friend have been experiencing some sexual tension — and have been refusing to act on that tension, due to the fear of ruining the relationship — it might be something to explore further with that person.
Communication is key for any relationship, platonic or not, to survive. So don’t be afraid to talk things out prior to doing anything drastic.
Use your intuition. If you get the feeling that you and your…friend…are not on the same page, it’s never too late to laugh it off. That’s what friends are for. source.
Sunday, December 13, 2015
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In July 2013, it was discovered that many of Elite Daily's writers were using fake names and profile photos that were actually of unrelated models.[11] In a September 2013 interview with TechCrunch, founder David Arabov revealed that he publishes all of his articles under the pseudonym, "Preston Waters."[2] At least five other in-house writers were also publishing with pseudonyms. Elite Daily's staff was described in the TechCrunch article as having the belief that "there is no responsibility in telling the truth when it comes to [a writer's] byline or bio, as long as the articles themselves are accurate." Source
Steve Harvey taught us that holding out on sex for 90 days is the key to getting the relationship you deserve.
You have three whole months to really decipher if this man is worth the bragging rights you’ll be giving him after you two get to know each other on a more intimate level.
Yes, you will have the opportunity to get to know your potential boyfriend without sex clouding your judgment.
However, you take away his opportunity of really getting to know you.
In the beginning stages, sex only means something to one person in the situation: the woman.
Using what you have to get what you want will only lead to a relationship based on lust instead of a real connection.
Here are nine reasons why holding out on sex won’t get you the results you’re looking for:
1. You’re automatically basing the relationship on sex.
Thanks to the ego, men love a challenge. Men also love conquering that challenge.
When you hold out on sex, his only goal becomes getting the one thing you’re holding out on: your vagina.
It becomes less about getting to know you and more about conquering the challenge you’ve put before him.
2. The title becomes just a title.
If “No, we can’t have sex unless you’re my boyfriend” still rolls off your tongue, he will only give you a title to be able to have access to you.
Trying to establish a real bond will no longer matter.
No, I’m not saying have sex with him as soon as you meet him to get it out of the way.
But I am saying you shouldn’t dangle it in his face like a piece of candy every chance you can, in order to get him to be in a relationship with you.
He’s going to do whatever you require in order to accomplish his mission.
That includes giving you a title he couldn’t care less about.
3. Are you seriously still acting like you don’t want sex just as much as he does?
It seems like as soon as the night struck midnight on our 22nd birthdays, our vaginas woke up and realized, “Hey, I actually really enjoy sex, too.”
You’re no longer a teen. You’re over the whole being 21 thing.
Now, you’re considered a grown-ass woman, and your vagina knows it.
Your potential boo isn’t slow.
He knows you want sex just as much as he does.
With that being said, you holding out solely as a way to get commitment might be a sign of immaturity to him.
4. You might have some self-esteem issues.
The best thing you have to offer sits between your legs.
No? So why are you so scared of his post-sex actions?
Are you worried he may never call again? Or worse, are you worried what he’ll think about you?
Confident women don’t need men to validate them.
If you’re so worried about losing him after sex, it’s because you were expecting him to tell you who you are.
For some reason, you haven’t made up in your mind who you are.
But the only opinion of you that matters is the one you have for yourself.
You have to keep your vagina locked away because otherwise, he won’t find you pretty, intelligent, funny, etc.
There’s no possible way he could ever see you as that if you have sex with him, right? Got it.
You mean to tell me the genuine traits about you suddenly vanish after sex?
If you’re actually pretty, you’re still going to be pretty.
If you’re actually smart, you’re still going to be smart.
If you can actually add a valuable two cents to a conversation, you will still be able to add those same two cents after sex.
Oh, and he will still laugh at your jokes if you’re actually funny.
5. What you won’t do, another will.
In the words of Lil Wayne:
I told my girl, ‘When you f*ck me, better f*ck me good. ‘Cause if another girl could, she gonna f*ck me good
Basically, do you really think he’s not having sex with someone else in the meantime?
Not having sex with someone else would be him being loyal to you.
Don’t shoot the messenger, but guys in their 20s barely know how to be loyal to the girl they’re in a relationship with.
Do you think he’s about to be loyal to a girl he’s just texting and going to the movies with sometimes?
Um, hello.
What you’re holding out on is literally something any other girl can offer him.
He’s been taking other girls up on their offers ever since you told him you were going to be petty.
6. You’re not letting things happen naturally.
You’re not a robot.
Sex is natural, and you know exactly what sexual chemistry feels like.
If you’re not that sexually attracted to him, or him touching you doesn’t make you feel any different, then of course don’t do it.
However, if you like him, he likes you and him even looking at you or touching you makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, don’t let the relationship be based on sex.
Let it happen whenever you feel is the right time.
I said “feel.” I didn’t say whenever you count down to the right time.
7. Everyone’s love story is different.
Because every man and woman is different.
You would think people would make their specific relationship goals and standards based on the person they’re trying to be in a relationship with, but nope.
A lot of people would rather look at the couple next to them and base their relationship off theirs.
What may have worked for one couple may or may not work for you.
Sex in the early stages might have hurt their bond, but it might help yours.
8. You’re trying to stand out. Yet, you’re fitting right in.
All girls hold out on sex.
I’m sure as soon as you finished letting, “We can’t have sex unless you’re my boyfriend” roll off your tongue, he tuned out.
He’s heard it 1,000 times. He’s been in month-old relationships because of it.
He’s been in relationships where he didn’t know sh*t about her because of it.
He’s been in relationships where all they did was have sex because of it.
You’re trying to stand out and seem like the good girl instead of being yourself.
It doesn’t matter what he thinks about you.
It only matters how you act.
Believe it or not, having sex doesn’t make you a hoe, ladies.
It makes you human.
You can have sex before the relationship, and he can still think you’re the dopest girl he’s ever met.
Because again, your qualities don’t fade after sex. Who you are is who you will still be.
9. Sex isn’t that f*cking serious to men.
The woman determines how big of a role sex plays in the relationship because it’s not that serious to a lot of men.
It’s not this euphoric, spiritual, emotional thing to them like it is to women.
In their eyes — and because you guys aren’t in a relationship, let alone in love — it’s just sex.
Nothing more. Nothing less.
If you’re bringing something magical to the table, he’s still going to like you regardless.
Why would he stop talking to the girl he likes because she liked him enough to have sex with him?
Holding out on sex won’t get you the relationship because any relationship based on when you had sex is not worth being in.
At the end of the day, who you are, what you bring to the table and what makes you stand out is what will determine your relationship status.
In other words, if you know you can still change his life whether you have sex in the beginning stages or not, let that be what your relationship is based on. Source
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